Hello there. If you’re reading this, you’ve landed on the Dear Sis page. Here, I listen to your problem and give you advice. We all need someone to talk to, right? Dear Sis is here for you. I will listen and respond, and the cool thing is that you are completely anonymous. Let’s talk.

I received a question from anonymous who wrote:

‘I am in love with a married man but I have a boyfriend what must I do Ifill very angry when the married man does not give me attention’

Let’s start with your relationship with your boyfriend. What happened? Most people stay in relationships that no longer serve them because they are worried about what society will say. Are you willing to fix the existing problems in the relationship that make it difficult for you? Because those problems could be the reason why you are choosing to give your attention to the married man, who doesn’t seem to have the capacity to give you his attention seeing that his ignorance angers you.

Now, onto the married man, are you okay with being a mistress? Does he have time for you? What about him did you fall in love with? Does he have a family? What about his wife?

I’m not here to guilt trip you at all, however these are some of the things you have to consider because this decision is not just yours to make. It’s a domino effect that falls onto one person then another then another.

You and your boyfriend could live happily without the married man in the picture, but also, what if you’re not happy with your boyfriend? What if your boyfriend finds out? How will this make him feel?

I think because you’ve had a taste of both the cakes, then it should be easy to choose which one you’re going to eat from now on. But the reality is that it’s going to get more difficult for you to make a decision the longer you keep going. Yes, put yourself first, but also consider who could be affected by this.

All the best and I hope you will be okay.
Sis