We all know and are aware that rejection hurts, but life doesn’t stop just because someone has rejected you. Many do not like being rejected and may find or experience difficulties in dealing with that feeling of being rejected, in this article we seek to help you find ways to deal and get over being rejected.
Take some time to process your emotions.
After you’ve taken some time to calm down and get grounded, it’s important to pay attention to what you’re feeling and a great way to do this is write it all down in a journal. One exercise you can do, says Becker-Phelps, is to write down all the emotions you’re feeling and then pair them with the thoughts that are going with those emotions. Just by doing that, you’re getting some distance, and then you can cope with the rejection better, because you’re not just all tangled up in it. And whenever you are paying attention to your emotions, remember that it’s never helpful to feel like you shouldn’t feel a certain way. “Your emotions are never right or wrong, they just are.
Understand why rejection hurts so much.
Before you learn how to deal with rejection in dating, at work, or in your home life, the first thing to remember is that there’s a reason rejection stings so much and it’s not because you’re weak or too sensitive. In fact, there’s an evolutionary reason why we desperately need other people to accept us
Take a step back…and practice some self-care.
In the immediate aftermath of a rejection, we’re not really in that space to think about it because we’re in so much pain. Anger and hurt will probably be your immediate reactions after a rejection, but contrary to popular belief, releasing your anger (for example, screaming or hitting a punching bag) doesn’t help bring the negative emotion down in fact, it’s likely to even increase it.
In these moments, Becker-Phelps says that self-care is truly important: Activities like exercising and going for a run, doing yoga or meditating are great ways to get in a balanced place, so you think more clearly about the situation instead of getting into the rut of emotional thinking. And if those activities aren’t really your thing, try engaging in anything that makes you feel good and helps you calm down whether it’s baking, taking a bath, or listening to music.
Spend time with the people you love.
When you’re faced with a rejection of any type, one of the most important things is to remember that there’s more to life than the one rejection from that one person or thing and that there are plenty of other people who are on your side. To remind yourself that you haven’t been completely shunned by the world, spend some quality time with friends and family, and make sure that you’re still feeling truly connected with other people around you. If you’re trying to figure out how to deal with rejection from a crush, for instance, you might want to turn to your friends for moral support and some quality BFF time.
Beyond simply acknowledging your emotions, try writing down some things that are positive about yourself in other words, come up with a list of some of your strengths and values, and start your morning off each day by reading them out loud to yourself. This doesn’t mean just talking yourself up, but thinking about what makes you. By helping you hold on to the things that are a part of you, these self-affirmations will help you feel stronger just by recognizing who you really are and how you identify yourself, especially in the face of self-doubt that often comes with rejection.
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