Editor’s pick: Is drunk sex ever a good idea?

12. The feeling of being willing to “do anything” people feel when they’re drunk is different between men and women. This is a crucial difference, and one of only a few gendered differences in the study’s findings. While women tend to discuss this attitude in terms of being more “adventurous,” men compared the feeling alcohol gives them to “boldness” or “confidence.” One man said, “It feels like you get a lot more primal [on alcohol],” and said it’s like a feeling of needing something and doing whatever to get it.

13. Marijuana’s “forbiddenness” facilitates intimacy between two people. Because it’s still illegal in most places, participants in the study said the taboo of smoking weed with someone else in private is an intimate act. “When I go on a date, if it went well, I’d be like, ‘Want to come back to my place and smoke weed?'” said one 31-year-old woman. “That’s a great transition into the intimacy of being at my house. ‘Let’s do something a little bit taboo together.’ And then it’s like you’re sharing a sensation that’s a little bit forbidden.”

14. People don’t lower their standards when they’re high, but they do find people more attractive in general. While alcohol led a lot of people to sleep with people they didn’t necessarily find attractive, some said they found their partners “more attractive” when they were high. “When I’m high … the people I’m attracted to, I’m not at all attracted to sober,” a 22-year-old female participant said. “They should be called ‘weed goggles,’ because it’s much worse on marijuana than on alcohol.”

15. Alcohol makes you forget things you did. Obviously. A lot of participants said they couldn’t remember sexual interactions they had when alcohol was involved. As the study notes, “This often led to reclusiveness, and some participants even reported being ‘cold’ to their partner in the morning.” Clearly, this is dangerous, and one of many reasons to be super careful about having sex when you’ve been drinking.

16. Having sex when you’re high once will make you want to have more sex when you’re high. A man and woman from the study both separately reported a desire “for more sex after the first sexual episode on marijuana.” But people who have had drunken sex don’t necessarily crave more drunken sex.

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17. Having sex after you drink leads to a lot of regretThere’s a whole section in the study dedicated to feelings of regret following sex. “The most commonly reported feeling after sex on alcohol was regret,” the study reads. This comes from a combination of the fact that alcohol led participants to sleep with people they didn’t find attractive, concerns about pregnancy, and completely forgetting about people they’d had sex with. “When you’re drunk, it’s more regrets or I-wish-I-didn’t-do-that type of thing,” said one 32-year-old woman. “Definitely had times where I didn’t use a condom. Pulling-out method, one-night stands … Just didn’t feel good about that at all.”

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