No one talks about how hurtful it really is to lose a friend, we always focus on romantic breakups and how difficult it is to get over them but the pain of friendship breakups can sometimes be much as painful and underrated.
The core foundation of a friendship is known to be love, trust, and mutual support and dreams. If and when one of those foundations crumbles, it can lead to severe heartache and a lack of trust can brew. We all know that once trust is broken, it is hard to regain or even try to rebuild it.
Here are some tips to help you deal with a friendship breakup:
Reflect on what went wrong:
Friendships can end based on many factors, that can be in the form of a disagreement, relocation, growing apart or a change in life circumstances. Pride and ego are known to be the major contributing factors as people feel entitled to an apology that they don’t even deserve. If there is something you and your friend can talk through and fix, don’t feel afraid to reach out.
Acknowledge and accept the loss:
The feeling of experiencing a range of emotions when a friendship ends is completely normal. What you need to do is to allow and give yourself time to heal so that you can finally move on when that time comes. However, that doesn’t mean this will be a walk in the park, especially when you have been friends for the longest time. Remember that it’s okay to feel sad and it’s a normal part of the healing process.
To help and aid your healing process, It’s important to set boundaries. This could mean or result in you making and applying the measures of taking some time off social media to eliminate the temptation of ending up making contact with the person who was your friend, it even becomes worse when they do not reciprocate the effort that you’re trying to make. It’s okay to take some time out to heal and move on.
Focus on self-care:
Your emotional and mental well-being can be tested when going through a friendship breakup. It’s important to focus on self-care in order to start regaining yourself again, that should be done in order to help you heal. In as much as nothing can seem positive at that point, but just try to surround yourself with positivity. Spend more time with people who care about you and make you feel good. Focus on your hobbies, interests, and goals. Do more of the things that make you happy and help you feel good about yourself.
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