Hello Uncle T, I am a 39-year-old concerned married woman living in Pretoria. Until today, my husband of 12 years can’t help but fall asleep every time after the first round and this is seriously getting to me. I have not consulted him about the matter, but I have shown him signs that I need more than just a single round since it takes time for me to reach orgasm.
I have bought energy boosters for him and Viagra pills, but when I try to give it to him, it ends up in an argument and tells me he knows how to satisfy a woman. I am writing to you Uncle T because I fear my temptations lately will lead me to cheat on my husband, how do I solve this matter? Anonymous – Pretoria.
Hello there,
Communication in a relationship, especially before intimacy – is key in order to make sure that both of you are satisfied. The ‘’deed’’ is supposed to be a mutual benefit for two people (irrespective of their sexual preferences) and not just for one. You need to woman-up and tell your husband that he should start upping his game in the bedroom. Although some men won’t admit it, a few of us know that a woman needs to reach orgasm as much as we do.
I have seen many relationships crumble and fall because some men do not take priority in making their women reach orgasm. Since both of you have exchanged vows, I think it is wise for you to sit down your life partner and make him understand your frustrations, make him understand how his performance is slowly leading you into temptation.
Once you have that conversation with him, don’t just sit back and wait for him to do all the work alone, as I said; this is a mutual benefit. Start exercising foreplay, buy some lingerie, surprise him with a ‘’quickie’’ while he’s taking a bath, or find some teasing bedroom games you both can play to stimulate those hormones. Once you do all these things, I guarantee you that your bedroom affairs will be more than steamy.
Uncle T’s advice.
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