Hello Uncle T, I am a 38-year-old living in Meadowlands (Soweto) with my girlfriend of six years. I am currently not working due to the accident I got into a year ago that left me crippled and living off the government’s road accident fund. The fund is quite enough to last me till I take my last breath, but I’m afraid that won’t be happening because my friends told me my wife is spending it all on young men.
Although I haven’t seen it with my own two eyes, but I have checked my balance and it is not the way I left it after opening up a take-away business. I have confronted her about this, and she has strongly denied it, saying now that I have money, I am treating her like some ruthless gold digger. The truth is, I haven’t been sexually active after the accident and that is why I somehow believe it is true that my girlfriend is using my money to lure these young men into bed, it’s just that I just can’t prove it yet.
So I was hoping to get some advice on how to handle this situation, I don’t want to lose my girlfriend, I love her, neither do I want to lose my money, please help!
Hello there,
The best thing you can do for yourself right now is to start doing your own investigation to prove the allegations wrong or right. It might be that your girlfriend is really spending your money on young men, who knows? But it is also possible that those are just lies spread to destroy your relationship with her, I mean you can’t really rely on hearsay.
Just to touch on your point about the struggles you encounter in the bedroom, that is not a valid reason for somebody to cheat on anyone. I always tell people that if they are unhappy in a relationship, the best thing to do is leave… staying in that relationship will only make things more difficult and painful for the both of you. So if it is true that your wife is cheating on you because of that, then I urge you not to beat yourself up about it, because she could have saved you the pain of finding out about the infidelities by simply leaving.
With that said, please make sure you collect enough evidence to conclude anything because once words are said, they can never be taken back. So make sure before you confront anything or anyone, you have all your facts straight.
Uncle T’s advice.
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