‘’Hello Uncle T, I am a 42-year-old single mother living in Midrand and I have a problem with my daughter’s fiancé. I live with my daughter in a 4-room apartment and I was so happy for her when she told me she had found someone and he is willing to do the right thing upon her as a Christian woman who believes in marriage before the deed.
However, everything started going wrong when I first met the guy who my daughter is willing to spend the rest of her life with. It was last year around October when I organized a get-to-know each other lunch with my daughter and the guy. I remember I cooked my special recipes and organized everything I felt was needed to welcome a groom-to-be at a bride’s home.
On arrival, the guy introduced himself and told me more about himself and how he and my daughter met, very interesting stories. We got well acquainted until my daughter asked to go to the bathroom and the guy started telling me how beautiful I am, and how he wished he met me instead of the daughter. As a parent, I took that as a joke until I realized the culprit was serious. He asked for my numbers and I gave them to him thinking he was keeping them for emergencies, however, I was surprised when I received a text from him saying: ‘’Morning beautiful, I know I made a mistake by saying what I said yesterday, but lord knows how much u charmed me, can we do lunch?’’
I deleted the messages and blocked his number, but the guy kept on coming over to our house pretending to come see my daughter but in actual fact, he wanted to talk to me. This one day, he came over when my daughter was at work and asked me to give him a chance, I asked him about my daughter’s feelings and their wedding in two months-time and that’s when I got a shock of my life. He had the guts to tell me we could run away and start a life together somewhere else without my daughter!
From that day, I told him to never set foot in my house again and told him to stay the hell away from my daughter, but it seems like he didn’t get the message. Unfortunately, the wedding is still on and I now have a heavy secret that I do not know how to tell my daughter because I do not want to see her unhappy. I was hoping you could give me some advice on how to overcome this situation, please help. Anonymous – Midrand.’’
Hello there,
It seems like this guy does not respect you as a mother, let alone your daughter and his commitment to her. For some reason, I have a feeling that this is not the first time this man has done something like this, that is why he somehow thinks you are comfortable with it. First of all, you are the mother of the woman he proposed to and he’s supposed to give you all the respect that you deserve.
I know this is not the time and century to be deciding who you want your daughter to fall in love with or not, but what makes you think he won’t do the same thing after he gets hitched with your daughter? If you are familiar with the saying; ‘’prevention is better than cure,’’ then I absolutely see no reason why you shouldn’t tell your daughter what kind of man she is getting married to.
You are worried about her happiness, but what about the pain she’ll have to endure after getting married to a cheater and finding out later that he is the devil incarnate? I think it is better for her to go through the pain of ‘’I almost married a liar,’’ than for her to go through the ‘’I’m such a fool, how did I get myself into this?’’ phase.
Mothers are supposed to protect their daughters from the beast, even if it means their daughters are in love with that beast, play your role and do right upon your bundle of joy!
Uncle T’s advice.
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